One of the most common worries we hear is "We're so different in height, will our first dance look awkward?" The answer is no. With a few small adjustments, a big height difference can look romantic, elegant and even a little dramatic, in the best way.
1. Adjust your hold
A standard dance hold assumes partners of similar height. When one partner is much taller, the joined hands should sit at a comfortable height for the shorter partner, not the taller one. The taller partner's hand on the back can sit a little lower, and their elbow should stay soft. Nobody should be reaching up or hunching down.
2. Make turns comfortable
Underarm turns are where height differences show most. If the shorter partner is turning, the taller partner simply lifts the arm a little higher than usual so there's clear space. If the taller partner is turning, try a wider, more open turn or a turn without hands joined overhead. A good instructor will choose turns that suit your heights rather than forcing a standard move.
3. Use the height for drama
Height differences make some moves look fantastic. Dips look deeper and more elegant, the shorter partner can tuck in close for a beautiful cuddle position, and side-by-side walks look striking. We often build choreography around these moments so the difference becomes a feature, not a problem.
4. Think about shoes
Heels can close the gap a little, but only wear a height you can dance comfortably in for several minutes. A low block heel or a dance shoe is often the best of both worlds. Bring your wedding shoes to lessons as early as possible so you practise at your true wedding-day height. Our guide to the best shoes for your wedding dance lessons has more detail.
5. Mind the eye line
The taller partner tends to look over the shorter partner's head, which can look distant in photos. Practise looking at each other at key moments. A slight bend of the head from the taller partner, and a lift of the chin from the shorter partner, makes a big difference on camera.
6. Choose the right style
Some dance styles are more forgiving of height differences than others. A slow rumba or a relaxed sway-based routine works well for almost any couple, while very close-hold styles need more adjustment. If you aren't sure, our article on matching your dance style to your song is a good place to start.
7. Be careful with lifts
Lifts can look amazing with a big height difference, but they must be safe. Only attempt one with professional guidance and plenty of practice, and always in the clothes and shoes you'll wear on the day.
Every couple can dance
Height is just one of the things we design around. We tailor every routine to the couple in front of us, so you look comfortable and confident together. Book private wedding dance lessons at our studio, midway between Brisbane and the Gold Coast. And if you're still planning the rest of the day, our sister business Let's Marry can help with your celebrant, MC and DJ.